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Relationship Therapy

Tense couple at home.

Every relationship has problems at some time or another and may need help. Generally, they can be worked out between the parties. Indeed, the bond may emerge stronger. However, it can be hard to address and overcome these problems. Likewise, if the robust discussion transforms into a raging row underlying issues can be lost in the storm. As an illustration, do relationships break because ‘the toothpaste lid is left off’? Relationship therapy – also known as relationship counselling – provides a safe, confidential space to discuss your relationship.

Communication is key. If communication within the relationship is not good the problems will not be resolved. , does it help?

In other words, if communication has been fraught with fierce arguments, slanging matches, negativity and searing accusations, does it help? Therapy sessions can help give you space to explore challenges you face.

7 Ways Relationship Therapy Can Help.

  1. It can help you discover how you really feel about the relationship. In a safe, non-judgemental, confidential environment. Identifying your wants and needs.
  2. You can speak freely about issues that concern you without fear of recrimination or escalating into an argument. Big things or little things.
  3. Couples therapy can give you clarity regarding the relationship. Sometimes we can’t see the wood for the trees. Therefore, we become overwhelmed.
  4. It helps you to take responsibility. As a result, it limits the ‘blame game’.
  5. It helps you to see another’s point of view. Therefore, you may gain a better understanding of their behaviour and motives. Hence, slower to judge/blame.
  6. It helps with self-awareness and growth as individuals and in the relationship. Consequently, you may be better able to identify, overcome and pre-empt challenges.
  7. Most importantly, couples therapy can help improve verbal and non-verbal communication.

Is it normal to lose the ‘spark’?

Generally, relationships develop through stages.  I would suggest the stages are not entirely exclusive but a general direction.

The Romance.

In this phase, the couple, usually, believes that the relationship is positive. Even though there may be little challenges things are going to be fine. Butterflies in the tummy. Anticipation. Every meeting an event. However, it is not realistic to expect to live in an amusement park.

Day to Day.

Billy Smith Therapy - Portrait of offended young woman ignoring her angry partner sitting behind her on the couch at home.

The couple starts to learn more about each other. Facing situations as a couple not as individuals. Consequently, couples may notice that there are things they disagree on.  As a result, these splinters may grow into logs if left to fester.

Individuals may start to feel anxious due to the change in dynamic. As a result, they may begin to think they have made a mistake. Things aren’t as they were. Which could lead to more anxiety. Small things grow too big things. If not communicated – to huge things.

If not resolved these challenges can build far beyond their beginnings. Moreover, they can transform into masks to obscure the real reasons behind them. A sort of snowball effect.

A couple may apportion responsibility to each other, themselves or situational factors. However, the challenges are now likely to have taken on a life of their own, far removed from the ‘splinters’. Relationship counselling can help people relate to each other in a more productive way.

Do I need couples therapy?

Couples therapy can provide an opportunity to explore your attitude to the relationship. Is it a habit? Do you want to save it? Likewise, it can help you to establish and reopen lines of communication. Having a clearer view of the situation will help you to see a way to move on.

Can counselling help a broken relationship?

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Not communicating is keeps your needs and expectations, your hopes and fears in a box. A box that will get heavier. Furthermore, we may know someone well enough to think we ‘just know’ each other’s wants and needs… but do we? Hearing them leaves no room for doubt.

Communication takes the pressure off. Shake a bottle of Coke and take the cap off too quickly and see what happens (other carbonated drinks are available). Couples counselling helps open up communication and can help towards a healthy relationship.

Not communicating is keeps your needs and expectations, your hopes and fears in a box. A box that will get heavier. Furthermore, we may know someone well enough to think we ‘just know’ each other’s wants and needs… but do we? Hearing them leaves no room for doubt.

In short, things left unsaid can lead to a lot of tension and anxiety in a relationship. At the same time other influences, for example, guilt, lack of respect, hangovers from the past and indifference may come into play.  As a result, people may find it harder to get along with each other. They may want to escape the situation temporarily or permanently. Try to talk it out not run out.

What do relationship therapists do?

I aim to help people in a relationship gain understanding, resolve conflict and improve their experience of the relationship.

Being willing to engage with relationship counselling is the first step to understanding a very challenging situation. Whether you attend as a couple or on your own couples therapy can help to unravel the questions, the pain, the guilt. All positive for general mental health and address relationship issues.

A relationship: two individuals bracketed by each other (ii).

In conclusion, If you are asking ‘where can I get relationship therapy near me?’ why not try relationship counselling online? Many people find it helpful due to, for example, flexibility, less travel and fitting into busy days.

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